No More Leftovers

  • Posted on December 6, 2014 at 11:18 AM


Yesterday my husband came home from a long day at work and was hungry.

I said, “I’m really busy right now getting things done around the house. I don’t want to stop and make dinner.”

I wondered if my husband realized what most women do to make their house a home.


I was on a mission. Holidays can do that to me. I was putting the Thanksgiving decorations away

and hoped to find the Christmas decorations buried in the basement storage.




Every year when December rolls around, I make lists to stay focused. I decorate my home with fabulous decorations. Of course I don’t stop there. There must be lots of delicious food in the house.  I add to my list the need for perfect Christmas cards.


So today when I didn’t want to stop working, he told me, “As far as Christmas is concerned, we only need a tree.” charlie browntreeI thought, “Really? That’s all we need for Christmas?”



I couldn’t decide if his answer made sense!


I stopped what I was doing to acknowledge his presence. But everything inside of me was screaming, “Put all

the fall decorations away and find the Christmas decorations.” I felt like a terrible wife because I was driven by my to-do list.


After he left for karate class, I checked my emails and Facebook updates. As I read one post, I was stopped in my tracks.


FB_20141204_20_29_07_Saved_PictureI started to think about our Thanksgiving food and my family.


Just like the leftovers filling my refrigerator, I realized my personal leftovers were all I seemed to be giving to my family.leftover




Why do I pressure myself to have everything perfect? After exhausting myself shopping for gifts and wrapping them with dazzling detail, will my family’s need for love and meaning be satisfied? Am I missing something? Do my actions speak louder than my words?  Am I striving to finish my to-do list at the cost of missing the opportunity to be fully present with my family? Will they remember a home filled with love or a stressed mom trying to do everything perfect?




Maybe my husband’s response of just needing a tree rang with more truth than I cared to admit.tree


So I made a revised list and am now displaying it in my kitchen for this Christmas Season.


I hope it will remind me that I don’t need to have the perfect house or presents.


Instead, I need to cherish those around me.                                                          They deserve more than my leftovers!




4 Comments on No More Leftovers

  1. Sharon Barns says:

    Awesome post, Lori! Thanks for sharing and giving voice to the struggles we all face during this busy, but important, season 🙂

  2. Margo Priest says:

    Wow, Lori! Your heart speaks to every woman out there! We put so much pressure on ourselves to do it all! Your writing is a great reminder to simplify and to treasure the true meaning of Christmas….Jesus came to give us the greatest gift ever….eternal life! I am going to put a few less decorations out and enjoy more time with my dear family and friends! Love all your adorable pictures! Merry Christmas!!!! xoxo

  3. Sandy Doomis says:

    Your response is so wonderful. Finding Christ in the ordinary is what’s it all about. I bet you will never look at your Christmas tree or Kitchen sign with old lenses again. Thanks for the reminder of what is important this season. What a great revelation Christ gave you thru your husband . Merry Christmas!

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